With more than 25 years of relationship counseling experience, Dr. Jane Greer has appeared on Oprah, The Today Show, the Early Show, CNN, Dateline NBC, 20/20, Fox 5 Good Day New York, and The View. She has been interviewed in the New York Times, USATODAY, Us Weekly, In Touch, and People. Dr. Greer contributes to magazine.

"Am I with the most selfish person alive?"

"Am I being selfish when I do the things I want to do?"

"If you loved me, you would..."

The battle of what "I want" versus what "you want" is intense. Couples are in a constant tug of war, squabbling with each other with no regard for their partner's feelings, with great guilt over their own perceived selfishness, or feeling somewhere in between. And it's costing us our relationships.

What About Me? will guide readers through the new terrain of relationships in this era of entitlement, showing how selfishness plays a role and helping you better understand what being selfish really is. Learn to:

see beyond what you perceive as selfish requests-your partner's and your own

conquer the selfish hot spots that flare up in your relationship

understand all the differences, fears, and preferences that come between couples

Through anecdotes and quizzes, and drawing from Dr. Jane Greer's more than twenty years of experience in relationship counseling, What About Me? will teach readers what's reasonable to expect of themselves and their partners, equip them with the tools to move from "me" to "we," and get them back on track to happily ever after.

"Finally, a simply put yet deeply resonating guide to help us eliminate toxic messages that feed into our relationships! Keep What About Me? next to your bedside and get what you need, immediately!"

-Emme, supermodel

"What About Me? unabashedly digs deeply into the origins of conflict in relationships and paves the way for resolution, healing, and happiness. This is a book that will serve all of us well."

-David Perlmutter, MD, author of Power Up Your Brain: The Neuroscience of Enlightenment

Contents

Acknowledgments xi

Author's Note xiii

Introduction xv

Part One: The Selfish Game 1

Chapter One: Are You a Giver or a Taker? 3

Chapter Two: If You Loved Me, You Would...: The Great Expectation 27

Chapter Three: Selfish Hot Spots 49

Chapter Four: It's Always about You: Selfish Sex 75

Part Two: Moving from Me to We 101

Chapter Five: Loving Me without Losing Us 103

Chapter Six: The Language of Love : Heart Talk, Not Hurt Talk 129

Chapter Seven: What's the Bottom Line? 159

Chapter Eight: We're in This Together 179

About the Author 213