The future of Love is in jeopardy.

What would it look like if we were to redefine Love, entirely?

How do we make a newer, healthier version of Love the norm?

What does it look like to redefine Love in our society? It's time to have different conversations about Love. Different conversations about Love are not happening enough. Conversations about the unnecessary suffering...about the changes in the ways we are relating to one another, the evolution of Love and relating throughout time, and the paradigm shifts happening within the realm of relationships.

This book is the first of a series that provides an in-depth exploration of why we love in the ways we love.

It offers a perspective that will hopefully lead to a deeper understanding of why we act the way we do in relationships and Love. What happened? How, why, and when did we distance ourselves from the true essence of Love?

We are coming to a deeper understanding of our conditioning and what it entails: we are molded, without consent, into what someone else wants us to become from the moment we are born. The goal is to fit us all into a long outdated societal structure that is not evolving at the same rate our minds, state of consciousness, and awareness are evolving. It's like only having an 8-track to play music but all our music is in digital form. It's just not working out. Our new awareness and thought patterns have long outgrown the puritanical relationship structure brought on by colonialism. And it is the colonialist relationship structure that forms the backbone of most relationships and Western society today.

Entering this well-beneath-the-surface conversation about Love and relating is fascinating. It's a fascinating process because, as a species, we are always expanding. We are rapidly evolving into a deeper understanding of who we are NOT, and how we can more successfully thrive as human beings.

What do we need to discover to truly connect to Love's essence? What will help us peel back the layers of toxic love and shine a light on the beliefs that do not serve us? Social media, books, and movies often reinforce a toxic version of romantic love. Romantic love is presented as something that needs to be conquered...wrestled with...abandoned...picked up again...earned...lost...gained...and the process is repeated over and over again. That's exhausting. And it is not real Love.

I believe we are rising out of an era of relationship oppression, and it's messy, confronting, and confusing for a lot of people.

We think we yearn for love, but maybe it is not love we seek. The grasping element indicates something else is happening within us. We do not yearn for love. We yearn for connection.

This book is for people who are finding the experience of loving another person and starting relationships over and again to be increasingly challenging (I call this "relationship Groundhog Day). This book is for people who are open to another perspective on Love. This book is for people who have given up on love altogether.

Maybe you're married and love your partner, but you are also feeling deeply unfulfilled. Maybe you're starting a new relationship and wondering if this person is "the one."

Maybe, you're wondering if there is something else out there.

At first glance, you might think this book is designed to "turn" people from monogamy. It is not (at least that is not my intention). Instead, this book calls for a complete paradigm shift in the ways we think about Love. This book is a call for an awakening of Love's true essence.

My prayer is: May we collectively uncover Love's true essence. May we see one another for the sentient beings we are.

Jennifer Foster is a Life Coach with fifteen years of experience and is the creator of the popular online coaching site, Open Your Mind, A School for Unlearning. The author is currently finishing her master's in clinical counseling and is a licensed Registered Behavior Technician, delivering ABA therapy to children on the spectrum.

The author is known for her unique approach to relationships and well-being, using the "decolonize therapy" approach to healing, believing mental health is largly impacted by systemic inequities, the trauma of oppression, and the evolution of a society built on "grind culture."