Offers scientifically supported guidance to help people forgive those in their lives who have acted unfairly and have inflicted emotional hurt. It does not minimize the devastation of that hurt. It does not require reconciliation with the one who inflicted the hurt. Rather, it describes a process, followed with success by people around the world, to confront the pain, rise above it to forgive, and in so doing, to loosen the grip of depression, anger, and resentment that has soured life.

Preface

Acknowledgments

I. The Basics

1. A Theory of Forgiveness in Brief
2. If You Are Traumatized

II. Overview of the Forgiveness Process

1. How Telling and Listening to Stories Can Help
2. Forgiveness Is a Process
3. The Work Phase of Forgiveness
4. The Discovery Phase of Forgiveness
5. What Does It Mean to Forgive?

III. Getting Organized

1. The Forgiveness Plan
2. Measuring Your Forgiveness

IV. Forgiving Those Who Have Hurt You

1. Your Forgiveness Pathway
2. How Did You Do in Forgiving?
3. Forgiving Your Parents
4. Forgiveness Between Partners and Within Your Current Family
5. Completing the Triangle of Forgiveness
6. School Days, Work Days, and Other Days
7. Surveying the Landscape From the Mountain Peak

V. Giving the Gift of Forgiveness to Others

1. Questions as You Give Forgiveness to Others
2. Giving Forgiveness Away to Our Children and in Our Communities
3. Your Forgiveness Legacy

Appendix A: Process of How People Forgive Someone Who Was Unjust

Appendix B: Forgiveness Landscape Rating Scale

Appendix C: Personal Forgiveness Scale

Appendix D: The Forgiveness Guidepost Form

Notes

Index

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